Have you ever felt like your life is not yours anymore?
We often feel like we have no power over ourselves if our emotions, mood, and life are dictated by someone else or a situation. It makes us feel irrelevant, and it sucks when we have no control over ourselves and our lives.
But believe it or not, we have a say on how we will live our life, and you can start this by practicing self-love. This blog post is all about taking back your power and be in control of your life. It will entail courage and discipline, especially if giving away your control seems like the most automatic thing in your life.
But don’t worry, we must start somewhere, and here is how you can take your power back.
Expect more from yourself and less from other people or circumstances
Expectation is a significant source of frustration, for me, if not for everyone who’s reading this. Putting your expectations to the people or a situation you have no control of can put you in a lot of misery. If you put a great deal of expectation from other people and they don’t deliver, you’ll feel different negative emotions.
Excessive expectations from other people or circumstances is an unknowing way of giving them power over our lives. Take back your power by learning to manage your expectations. Instead, put those expectations toward yourself: to improve you and make your life better.
Start to be self-sufficient
Self-sufficiency is a big word! Because we know that we sometimes need other people to sort out some things in our life. But of course, self-sufficiency pertains to the right degree of independence. Like what we learned from the danger of having big expectations, we need to be comfortable placing the expectations toward ourselves.
While it seems comfortable to depend on other people, it’s not always the best choice emotionally. We still need to honor our power by proving to ourselves and not for other people, that we can be self-sufficient.
Taking back your power is about deciding to provide for yourself in whatever way applicable. You can start gaining back your power back by loving yourself enough to seek opportunities to improve yourself and be independent.
Besides, it feels joyful to work on something, provide for yourself and help other people. It is an empowering feeling knowing that you are not waiting for someone else to give you everything you need.
Self-sufficiency will give you rooms to make an intelligent decision for your life, without a little care or fearing other people’s disappointment about those decisions.
Take care of your thoughts
Taking back your power also involves your success in taking care of your thoughts. Sometimes we may not realize how we are allowing other people’s energy to ruin ours. That’s why it is vital that we also pay attention to our emotional and mental health.
Improving our ability to filter unwanted energy from other people will help us. We may not realize it, but other people’s actions or words can ruin our emotional and mental well-being. Manipulators can trick us into giving away our power, and we must not let that happen.
Suppose you cannot stay away from people damaging your thoughts for whatever reason. In that case, it’ll be advisable that you’ll improve your mental strength. Trusting and believing in yourself are keys to protecting your thoughts.
It’s in your hand how you want your thoughts to be. Be it to work for you or against you. Take your power back by making your thoughts your ally.
Choosing what’s best for you
Choosing and acting on a decision is the core to take back your power over yourself and life successfully. I hope that by now, you’ll know what’s best for your well-being so that you can keep choosing the right path. Making and sticking to your decision is by far the most important indicator that you have power over your life.
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Put healthy boundaries about other people’s influences over your life. While it is not bad to get other people’s advice, it is essential to identify how much of your deciding power you’re giving away. Make sure that you are not giving away too much of your power to decide over your life.
Final notes about taking back your power
Taking back your power is a powerful statement and may bring different emotions to you. You may remember when you followed someone else’s decisions, and it didn’t get you any happiness. Or you may remember the frustrations you feel when you are disappointed with other people’s actions.
Living in circumstances or decisions beyond your control and hoping for the better is a gamble. Our life is essential, and it should not be dependent on other people’s whims. That’s why taking back your power is essential and should not be put behind.
Other people may want the best for us, but we are allowed to direct our lives. Because we know the definition of happiness, we know the definition of success, and we know the definition of the right decision. We must trust and believe in ourselves so that we can start taking back our power.