Have you ever been in an endless cycle of putting off your most important goals on the back burner? It doesn’t feel right to procrastinate on working toward the things that can change and improve your life, right? But, have you ever tried to ask yourself to give you some answers?
Why ask yourself, you wonder. Because asking yourself is a form of self-reflection, it is a free tool to help you perform an accurate assessment of the things that are going on in your life now and what you can do about it.
Your life is yours, and you know yourself more than anyone. Why you do and avoid doing things can only be answered by you alone.
What is self-reflection?
Self-reflection is about seeing yourself and examining your feelings. It is where you define the things that are happening in your life. Self-reflection allows you to pause and give your emotions a name, and it can also give you an excellent chance to improve your life.
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The connection between your goals and self-reflection
At all times, we should accept that not all things will be within our control. Although things can happen the way we want it to be, undeniably, other things may disappoint or hurt us.
Self- reflection or introspection will work successfully if we are at ease in accepting that the only thing we need to control is our feelings or reactions to what’s happening or are about to happen in our lives. By taking this, we can have an honest audit of ourselves against our set goals.
Self-reflection example questions
Asking yourself questions is the first step in doing a self-reflection. Honestly, you’ll realize that problems will effortlessly start to pop up when you are doing this. With pen and paper or only inside your mind, you can begin accessing the powerful and meaningful answers within yourself. But if you are new to this activity and wondering how to start, here are sample questions to help you:
Where am I now?
I always start by asking myself where I’m now. I answer this question first to ground myself and be present. This is to prepare my mind for self-reflection. Sometimes keeping thoughts in the present is a struggle. That’s why I recommend that you answer this question first.
You can answer this question literally, or you can dive deeper. Where are you in your life now? Try answering this question, too, when working on this.
What am I feeling now?
Please describe your feelings at the moment; give it a name. I believe that acknowledging our genuine emotions with courage will help us be more transparent about why we are self-reflecting. Since you’re reading this to gain introspection benefits and back on your goals, I know that some part of you is worried or uncomfortable.
You may be worried because you are procrastinating and running away from things that you should be doing. You may feel defeated, and as if life has been running you down. You may somehow feel worthless at some point.
Be true to yourself and acknowledge what you’re feeling now.
What’s important to me?
What are your original plans? What’s this goal you’re putting down that means the world to you? Be clear and answer what’s vital for you and how important it is for you. By answering this question, you’ll be confident if there are differences in your priorities and desires for this plan or goal now compared to how you view it in the past.
What’s stopping me?
I love this question because I’m forced to think of things or events that stop me from working toward my goals and realizing if it’s a problem in the first place. You can answer this by enumerating every possible reason, event, or anything that’s preventing you from moving forward.
This question is compelling, and it’ll make you see your power against the reasons you’ve enumerated. Remember that being able to accept and be comfortable that things will not always be within your control is vital in self-reflecting.
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If things are beyond your control, there’s no reason for you to stress about it. Instead, accept it and focus on the things you can manage.
How can I address and do something about the things that are stopping me?
After shamelessly giving every possible excuse on why you’re slacking now, it’s now time for the most crucial part. Every single time I’m self-reflecting, I realize that I also have the solutions to my problems.
Do you need to consider changing some parts of your routine, your mindset, or improve your discipline? Now that you have the answer, you are now ready to take some serious action.
Final thoughts on self-reflection
Take time to understand yourself, your life, your experiences, and your feelings. Don’t deny them any recognition. You know yourself more than anyone, and no one can force you otherwise to work on the things you need to do other than the voice from within.
Sometimes, we can identify the problems within ourselves. The beauty of it all is that we can take on small, steady changes to be the person we want ourselves to be. To be the person who is willing to put in the work to succeed.