How many times does your inability to accept things prevents you from moving forward with your life?
In this life, it is crucial to understand that some things will not be within our control. Acceptance and letting go indeed are necessary skills we must master to continue living happily. Can you imagine how it’ll hurt being the only one stuck in a particular situation while everyone involves seems to have moved on.
A life full of regrets, anger, and frustration brought about by our inability to let go is indeed a frightening way to appreciate our precious lives. That’s why we should commit to doing our best to move forward. And in doing so, we need some realizations on possible reasons why we are forcing ourselves to stay rooted in some situations even if our minds and hearts are willing to let go and be in a different direction.
What could be stopping us from letting go? What could be, and how we can succeed in our decision to move on?
Is fear keeping you from letting go?
Fear may have been considered an unpleasant emotion. Yet, we cannot deny its power and how much it can influence our decisions. Fear sometimes allows us to stay in a decision we certainly would not do if we have options. Similarly, fear entices us to stay in our comfort zone because we feel safer, and it seems easier.
Is there something or some events you can’t seem to let go of? Is fear behind it?
If fear stops you from letting go of a situation, you should assess the reasons behind your fear. By doing so, you’ll be able to have a clear view of the problem, and you’ll have an idea of what to do next. If you believe that there is a solution to every problem, I have faith that even fear will not stop you.
The best answer to fear is nurturing your resources and being self-sufficient. Calculating the risk is always advisable in making the right decisions and battling your fear.
What are the consequences of not letting go?
Have a silent moment with yourself or grab your journal and answer the questions above?
Frequently, we are sticking to a situation because we are afraid of losing it. However, is there a time when you give some thought about what valuable things and opportunities you are freely giving away by staying in a particular situation?
Let’s think about the possibilities behind the rut that you’re refusing to give in. Do you think that it’ll be worth it?
If we look back, we will see situations where we are hesitant to choose an option over the other. But in some cases, we are surprised how those options filled with hesitation became the best decision.
Examine your options
Are you limiting yourself to the options you are comfortable accepting?
Believe it or not, life offers us different options. But sometimes, we are blind and unwilling to accept those paths because they are not familiar. Occasionally, we cannot let go of something because our mind is boxed to the options that are familiar to us.
That’s why it is advisable to have an unbiased view of your other options. And when your knowledge or experiences limit you from being fair about those options- seek some help from someone who could offer some information you might need.
Seek the clarity by self-reflection. This blog post will help you.
Again, it is vital to assess your options and how much resistance you have over them. Remember what else you could be losing just because you are glued to the familiarity of choice.
Is it what you really want? Or are you driven by external forces?
This usually happens if you give greater weight to others’ opinions or external circumstances in our ability to decide to move on or let go. While this is not always bad to consider those things, we must understand that we are the one to live with the choices we make.
And that no matter how influential those external forces are, it will not give enough justice if we are to suffer or stuck in something we won’t like in the long run.
Gain clarity by listening to yourself and what you know about the situation. Don’t put too much reliance on external reasons. If external reasons or others’ influences prevent you from letting go of something, maybe it is about time to assess how much responsibilities you are willing to take from those choices.
What do you feel about the situation?
Lastly, and probably the most straightforward realization to consider is to assess how you’re feeling about the whole situation. I believe that we have an inner compass- our judgment, feeling, and emotion. And it helps us be aware if we are in alignment with our true selves.
Do you have an awful feeling about a situation? Do you feel that the fiber of your being doesn’t want you to be in that exact moment? And that whatever you do, you think that you suck at it?
This is the most important wake-up call for me to give up something I thought is important for me. All my life, I’ve been following a certain path because other people’s influences drive me. I’m doing good, but my heart is not at ease. Letting go of something you considered necessary is a hard choice but let your feelings guide you- let it be your compass.
Final notes about letting go
The fact that you are thinking about letting go of something, someone, or a situation is an obvious indication that there is something wrong with the way things are making you feel. No reasons or conditions are enough to prevent us from moving forward and living our best lives.
I hope that these five realizations help you bounced back and let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back. I see and feel the gravity of not letting go not just from my life, but with others’ lives. If we are continually frustrated about the situations we cannot move away from; our lives will be filled with anger, disappointments, and what-ifs.
Hoping you’ll find the courage to do what’s best for you. Because, after all, we all deserve to be happy.
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